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poor you...

ask for her go in jym with you said that you miss her sooo much

good luck

He isn't one bit shallow. If anything he's a good person because i know many guys would just up and leave because of the weight problem. He's attempted to help her out but she is just refusing to adapt (according to his first post). I know you wouldn't date the fattest woman in the world because she had an amazing personality. Are you shallow?

thanks for the replies everyone! i will consider everyones advice and will keep you all updated with how everything goes.

hey mind trigger, hope your gfs losing that weight. It would suck to have a fat gf. Don't feel bad about it, it's the way most men have been created. Fat people are unattractive because they're unhealthy, so you see its evolutions procreation defense system, to make sure we don't have a bunch of fat unhealthy bitches ruling the earth, and destroying our resources even faster with their unsatiable need for MORE FOOD!

I thought you didn't believe in evolution?

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'tis Social Darwinism KD.

'nough said killer dreaming

You are far from shallow bud.

I think along with the fact you want her to lose weight for the appearance aspect of it you should also want her to lose weight for the health aspect of it. You may, which I do think is so, which is very good and shows that you do care a lot. It is human to want someone to look their best and I feel like this is that kind of situation. You still love and adore this woman so it isn't like you are with her for her looks. You have grown to love something about her and that is really amazing. I am really bad at giving advice as I am very blunt about dealing with these sorts of things...

You could always just talk to her about it. If I were a girl and my partner talked to me in a genuine fashion I would appreciate it because chances are that she realizes it too.

If you don't feel like going that route you could always 'blend' your activities. I am assuming although you have been dating for four years that you still go out together right? Try to see if instead of doing the regular cliche 'date' things try to substitute those for more fun/healthy/exercise activities. Challenge her to tennis or soccer. I would steer clear of running unless you know for a fact that she will be able to complete it because I have known some relationships to go awry because of a 'casual run' :|

a) you're not bad for wanting her to lose weight ....however that should be HER decision , not yours.

b)there is no need to start a conversation with her about that ,it will only make things worse.on the contrary, you should tell her that is for her character and personality you love her , not for her physical appearance .

c)if you don't feel attracted anymore because she gained some weight, is a sign that you NEVER loved her .
The best thing that could happen to her right now is to get rid of you and found another boy that would truly love her for what she is not only for her body.
And I am sure she will lose some weight ,too if she'll be with a nicer guy who'll make her want to look her best.

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My mistake. Too many people to keep up with. Sorry. lol
Back on topic: I'm waiting for an update! D=
I'm hoping everything went fine.

It does suck you can't just accept her weight problem, though.

That's my girl. I think she's the most beautiful person ever. ^^

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