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Old 06-22-2008, 10:17 AM   #21 (permalink)
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ok, so my girlfriend and i have been dating for about 4 years now and about 1 1/2 years ago she started to put on some weight. (between 15 & 20 lbs) when we met we were in excellent condition and since she has been gaining weight we've started numerous workout programs and diets, from south beach diet to hip hop abs. Somehow she always finds an excuse to quit after 1 to 2 weeks. I'm 5'6" and she's 5'4" so we are not tall by any means, so when we put on 10 lbs you can see it.

She played tennis for 4 years in high school and recreational soccer for 3 years during college so i know she's capable, she's just not willing.

i completely adore her and love her!

we don't live together so i can't monitor or help her with better eating habits when we are not together.

so my questions are:

1) am i a bad person for Wanting her to lose weight? ( i really want her to lose it)
2) if i'm not a bad person, how can i start a conversation with her without jeopardizing our relationship.
3) is our relationship over because i don't feel attracted to her anymore?

btw, i usually only gain 5 lbs but quickly lose it as we start a new exercise program and i usually eat pretty healthy.


You need to ask yourself why you want her to lose weight.
People forget that exercise makes your body require more activity to burn excess pounds at the same level. The more you exercise, and I mean the way those work out tapes would have you exercising, the more likely you will experience more weight gain if you stop.

It sounds like your girlfriend is stuck. She doesn't have the energy to run around and burn calories that she did before, but exercise programs feel overwhelming.

It would be better for her to just start walking. IF she can walk about a mole a day, on top of whatever walking she does while working or being around the house, the more likely she will be able to keep here weight at a reasonable level.

She won't look like a movie star, but she will feel better and encourage her body to burn calories effectively at a lower activity level.
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Old 07-13-2008, 08:21 AM   #22 (permalink)
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I don't think you should end the relationship just because her looks are changed. There is more to life than just body. Afterall, she had been giving you time of your life once.
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It's really not a good sign when you decide that you're no longer attracted to your girlfriend just because she put on a little weight. What's going to happen when she has a baby and can't lose the extra weight afterwards?
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hey come on!if you really love her then you wouldn't mind if she's becoming too fat, you will still accept her what ever she is or become. weight and face doesn't important if you really love a person, what matter is how long and how you appreciated and respect each other.
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lol...
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